It is the last thing you expected to hear and you are too shocked and confused to even begin to know what to do next. It’s real and it’s unplanned and you cannot foresee any reasonable solution. What do you say to her? What suggestions do you make or not make? What is adoption really like? What are your rights as the father? What if you disagree with your girlfriend’s decision? What are your options? Her options? Why do people choose adoption?
There are so many questions that, without having someone to walk through each one of them with you, you could get overwhelmed and make a decision based on fear and lack of information. These fear-based decisions often create a lifetime of emotional distress. Understanding all of your options is a great first start. The pregnancy counselors at Lifeline answer these questions and explain these options every day. We have the resources to get even the toughest questions answered and get you connected with the resources that you need in order to understand your legal rights. Often times we see expectant fathers being the first one to reach out to us for counseling, guidance, and resources and so they can make the most informed decision. We usually find that expectant parents have been given a lot of wrong information about the adoption option.
We understand that you may feel helpless and even hopeless because you don’t know what step to take next. Whatever your situation, Lifeline is ready to help. Before you consider stepping away from your child, his/her mother and the decision-making process, let us give you the information that you may be missing so that you can make a well-informed decision. Talk to one of our pregnancy counselors at Lifeline about how we see fear turned to hope every day.
While many adoption agencies were established with the primary purpose of helping adoptive families, our local adoption center was established with the primary purpose of helping the birth parent. At Lifeline, we view every expectant parent we come in contact with as a whole-being with spiritual, emotional, social, and physical needs. Therefore, if your girlfriend is pregnant and this is not planned, we are here for you and here for her. We think it is best when both of you are involved in the adoption process. You might initially think adoption is not for you. This may be true, but we would love the opportunity to at least share more info so you know what you are saying no to and so you know the truth about all the options in front of you. All of our processes are based on respecting and honoring the birth parents and what is in you and your child’s best interests.
All of our adoptive couples have been carefully and thoroughly evaluated to ensure their readiness to provide a stable and loving home for a child. Additionally, they have been trained in the value of an open adoption if that is what you desire as well as how to honor you in their home. They know you are not giving up your baby for adoption, but are making a loving plan. In fact, they have chosen to utilize Lifeline because of our commitment to you!
Regardless of whether you are facing a teenage pregnancy, you are already parenting a child, or are in any other situation, an unplanned pregnancy can be scary. You deserve to have a local advocate who will meet with you one on one and help walk you through this process. Contact us today!